Ladies
there is a time and a place for everything, which includes what we wear.
I’m
not going to yell at you and say what you can and can’t wear; I simply want you
to think about what you wear and why. And not about what the latest fashion
magazine tells you to wear. I’m not even going to use the word ‘modest’ too
much because that just sounds so dull, and besides everyone has their own meaning
for the word.
When
people say “dress modestly” they don’t always mean you should be boring, most
of the time they mean dress as a lady, in other words don’t be revealing, which
is a good way to dress.
When
I hear the saying ‘dress modestly’ I think of brown colours and greys. Which is
not my thing, hello, I have pink streaks in my hair.
If
you like to wear brown coloured clothes that’s cool! But that’s not for everyone.
Everyone is different with their own personalities and characteristics. Why
dress the same as the latest fashion model or rock-star, when you can dress to
suit your personality.
But
in saying that there is a time and place for everything, that includes what we
wear.
I
have seen young girls on the train going to the city wearing only a crop top
and short shorts.
Some
women say they can’t find there prince, but are you dressed as a princess?
Think
about it, if you wear skimpy clothing that shows a lot of your body in a place
where it is unnecessary, then what kind of men will you attract? A young gentleman
or a scumbag?
Now
just because I call them a gentleman does not make them boring, a real man is
fun but also respects you and has great respect for you, A real man will “fight
for your honour!” to quote the 80s song.
A
scumbag will not, and will expect things from you that you may not be willing
to give. A scumbag will also use words against you to make you feel weak and useless
whereas a real man will use words to encourage you.
Now
when I say “in a place where it is unnecessary” I mean that there is a place
where it’s ok to wear clothes that show some of your body, such as the beach or
a pool. That’s totally okay, I know there are many people who disagree with women
wearing bikinis at the beach because it’s a ‘distraction to guys’ or ‘it’s too
hard for men to control them-selves.’
PLEASE!
Real men are not mindless beasts that
see meat and turn into some kind of werewolf! In case you hadn’t noticed that
really ticks me off. Women aren’t aloud to feel comfortable at the beach and
get some sun?
It
comes down to your heart, if you (ladies) are at the beach and you are just
there for some sun, laughs with family/friends and for some swimming in the
ocean, that’s great. If you are there to flaunt yourself, that’s not so great. There’s
nothing wrong with liking how you look, I wish more women did, but there’s
confidence and then there is cockiness. There is no need to be cocky ladies. We
are all beautiful in our own unique ways.
This
leads me to another topic, sexual assault. Ladies if you have been sexually assaulted
in any way, then I’m so sorry that has happened to you and IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT.
No
matter what you wear if a guy wants you sexually he is going to see straight
through your clothes.
And
even if you where wearing something that might be a bit revealing, there is a
line that men and women should never cross. And that’s forcing yourself onto
someone who does not want it. It sickening that people do that, and even worse
when some say its okay. So not okay!
But
ladies you should never flaunt and tease a man either. If he is a good man who
respects you, then you need to show him some respect also.
In
the end what you wear says a lot about you. Ladies you are full of so much worth,
there is no need to show most of your body and breasts, you are more than that.
Have some respect for yourselves and your body, and allow for a little mystery.
“Your clothes should be
tight enough to show you’re a woman but loose enough to show you’re a lady.”-
Marilyn Monroe
